The Violent Take it by Force
69Could she be a victim of domestic violence?
Introduction
Domestic violence takes on many forms. It knows no enemies and everyone is a potential candidate. It doesn't care how old or how young you are. It preys on fear and intimidation. Most of the time, the children are the ones who are hurt the most.
Statistics show that a woman is assaulted every 9 seconds in the United States. One in every three women is a victim of domestic violence. It is the leading cause of injury to women. More than 3 women die each day due to domestic violence. Worldwide between 55 percent and 90 percent of women do not report their abuse.
Many factors can lead to domestic violence. Drug abuse and alcoholism can cause the violence to be more often or more aggressive. Statistics show that a child who witnesses domestic violence when growing up is more likely to commit violence as an adult.
PAVE
PAVE is an acronym for People Against Violence Everywhere. It is a new organization which was started by a young woman whom I had the good fortune to meet. She was abused by her husband and this poem was written using her abuse as a guide. She had emailed me with some of the details of her abuse. It is brand new as of right now and if you want to join or see a little about what the organization is doing you can check out the facebook page.
Maybe you don't know anyone who is being abused. Maybe you don't want to know where those bruise on your friends arms or neck came from. Those in abusive relationships many times get no help from anyone because they fear for their lives or the lives of their children. If you suspect someone is being abused, do not hesitate to help them. Try to get them to let you know what is going on and reassure them that you will be there for them.
Domestic Violence Against Men
We must not forget men who are abused by their wives or girlfriends. In many of these relationships, children are also involved and seeing their father abused is no different than seeing their mother abused. The scars left are the same both ways. There is no justification for domestic abuse.
The Violent Take it by Force
We were together since we were teens
After we were married he got so mean
Starting with a slap then even more
What he did to me hurt me to the core
He kicked me held a knife to my throat
You are worthless is what he would quote
I felt so alone guilty and full of shame
He laughed at me like it was a game
I endured it all with the help of my Lord
The abuse I took would not be ignored
Jesus would comfort me both day night
Until the time I took my flight
I took back the power he had over me
But even in this life there is no guarantee
Many did not make but went by the grave
Never again to be made the slave
To honor those who have gone on before
Who are not with us to fight anymore
We should run to get a divorce
From the violent who take it by force.
Matthew 11:12 And from the days of John the Baptist until now the kingdom of heaven suffereth violence, and the violent take it by force.
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Thank you G-Ma for being my first visitor here. A young woman told me about her abuse and it broke my heart. I appreciate the vote and comment.
I agree this is to the point and this is such an important issue. Being a victim of domestic abuse is an awful way to live and I am glad you are making a statement.
You are right Pamela. A statement should be made but a larger one than I can make alone. I appreciate the read and comment.
Frightening stuff here. Domestic violence can come in many forms-even against the elderly or teens against parents (single moms). It happens, it is unfortunate and silence helps to perpetuate it.
We must all stand up and speak up against it when we see the signs. Thanks for sharing.
Denise, it certainly is frightening. I wrote this poem a few weeks ago when the band I play bass in was asked to play at a rally for a battered woman's shelter.
Once again I appreciate your presence and words of encouragement.
Thank you so much for sharing this important information my brother. Shared on face book. Vote up and useful. May God bless you ~ eddie
As always Brother Eddie, your comments encourage me. Thank you for sharing it on facebook.
I appreciate the hub, but the title might not fit. "The violent will take it by force" is a bible verse referring to the Kingdom of God. I love everything about the hub, but the verse was taken so far out of context that it was a little distracting from your important and well said message. Forgive me for offering a critique.
I have worked in the field. What gets lost in the shuffle is the pain and hopelessness of the abuser who is being sucked down by a maelstrom of frustration. They get sent to an archaic intervention program that scolds them to take care of unresolved issues. It is like throwing a snowball at a tank. If we really want to improve the situation, we need to deal with our own unresolved issues and show some love. It is the best deterrent.
WD Curry, I don't mind critique. I understand what you are saying also. I agree with your comment except the part about the title. Those who abuse others take away their livelihood, their humanity and their freedom. I also believe that is what the verse of scripture is talking about.
I know you have seen what goes on in the religion forums here. I have seen it for almost four years here at HubPages. Believers are constantly ridiculed in an attempt to make us feel less human.
I do appreciate your comment and feedback.
You are so gracious that I am embarrassed. I know the destruction of abuse. I have seen it on a level that few have. One day it dawned on me. The abusers have been abused. They are grown-ups now. Where does it end? In forgiveness and healing. Is it possible? All things are possible with God.
I don't worry about bantering demons.
WD Curry, you asked, "Where does it end?"
My only answer is, "Everything ends with God." Until the time comes, we are to do what we can to protect those who are abused. The Bible speaks about caring for widows, orphans and the poor in general.
I agree on bantering demons. You cannot counsel a devil out of a person. They must be cast out with power.
Thank you for visiting once again and commenting. There is no need to be embarrassed.
Of course, you are right. Protecting victims is foremost. In my experiences working with victims, I realized that the victims may eventually perpetuate the legacy.
This is a work place. There are standards for work place behaviors in this country. I think the day is coming, soon, where workplace behavior around here will be coming up to standard. It is not acceptable to cast aspersions on anyone's beliefs in this country. It is against the law. It is a bad example to set for the fledgling governments around the world. It is going to stop. Sorry, I don't know how to spell in tongues.
Hello again my Brother WD. Victims have the choice to not perpetuate the abuse or pass it on to others. (I think that is what you been saying).
Not sure what the government or work place has to do with this. Care to elaborate?
Thanks for a lot of good information and a beautiful poem.
Thank you lifegate for the read and comment. Many are abused who never tell anyone about it and some have been abused so much that they end up dead because of the abuse.
Omg absolutely sensational, the poem was.......beyond words. I felt every emotion. Top work, you rock xx
Hello Blondepoet. Glad you like this poem. It actually wrote itself once I started writing. Thank you for the encouraging comment.
beautiful poem that brings forth the pain in an abusive relationship. i am glad u addressed this issue
Thank you for the read and comment bahrmoriat. It encourages me to keep writing.
thanks for this,, it was good,,, but it is sad how someone can smack their wife,, put welts on the kids and the child thinks they deserved it cause they acted out,,
Yes silly it is sad indeed, even while they keep saying they love them over and over again, they still beat them and do harm to them.
I hope your friend is okay. She was just the photo subject for the hub, right?
She wasn't abused. I only used her photo because I knew she wasn't abused. The one who sent me her info is doing OK now. She has rid herself of the man she was married to. She is only 21 years old right now I think.
I just wanted to make sure your friend was okay. The other friend, I am glad she is getting better.
The young lady who had been in the abusive relationship asked me on Facebook if our band would be interested in playing at a rally to raise money for a women's shelter. That was how I met her. I think they raised $400 for the shelter. This poem was printed out and read at the rally by one of the sponsors.
I am sorry I missed this one. There are other ways that don't appear in Domestic Violence too and those are Mental and Emotional. Good job SirDent!
You are right LG. Thanks for the read and comment. :)
G-Ma Johnson Level 4 Commenter 6 months ago
To the point and well said in your poem....Voted up...:O) Hugs G-Ma